After the storm: You can acknowledge past hurt while still embracing present connection

Apr 22, 2025

Whether it’s your teenager, your partner, your colleague, your sibling, we’ve all been where we want to have a relationship with someone whose mood is a little bit unpredictable.

Maybe yesterday, that person was in a volatile mood, snapping or withdrawing, like a thunderstorm. Today, they’re all smiles and looking to connect with you, a veritable sunny day.

Yesterday wasn’t easy, and you probably still have strong feelings about it today. It’s completely normal to not be okay with yesterday’s weather—it wasn’t fun, and you don’t have to just "move on" from it.

But you CAN be empowered to still choose to enjoy today’s sunshine.

It can be simultaneously true that you disliked the rain yesterday, and that you very much want to step into the warmth of today.

This isn’t about ignoring how you feel or pretending that yesterday didn’t happen. It’s about giving yourself permission to let today be what it is—without holding onto yesterday’s storm.

When you realize that it's okay to feel hurt or frustrated from the past while still making space to enjoy today, you open the door to balance. You don’t have to stay stuck in yesterday's weather—you can hold both the weight of those feelings and the joy of the present moment.

Ask yourself:
Can I embrace how I felt about yesterday while still letting today be its own thing?
How would it feel to step into today’s sun without needing to carry yesterday’s clouds with me?

It’s not about dismissing your feelings—it’s about choosing to make space for the light of today.

You have the power to hold both, and that's the real freedom.

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After the storm: You can acknowledge past hurt while still embracing present connection

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