Are you the last line item in your budget? Moving up on your list benefits everyone you love

Jan 30, 2025

Ever notice how you…
Easily you swipe that card for your child's new cleats, yet agonize over buying yourself a new pair of shoes?
Make sure your child gets a nap no matter what, but would never budget in your own rest time?
Get everyone’s hobbies and activities on the family schedule except for yours?

That moment of hesitation when considering budgeting money, time, or resources for yourself - we see it all the time.

As physicians, we're experts at investing in others. Our education, our patients' care, our children's futures - these decisions come naturally.

But when it comes to investing in ourselves? Suddenly it feels... selfish.
Like we're taking from our family rather than adding to it.

This doesn’t just apply to financial expenditures.
Do you make yourself worthy of time?
Do you make yourself worthy of rest?
Do you treat yourself to little things?
Are you always last on the list?

You can't pour from an empty cup, and you can't show up fully when you're running on fumes. That meditation app subscription, that nap, the hobby you've been putting off - these aren't luxuries that take away from your family. They're investments that help you show up as your best self in every role you play.

When your cup is full, everyone benefits from the overflow.

What would change if you viewed giving to yourself not as a withdrawal from your family's well-being, but as a deposit?

We invite you to start by including yourself on the list of people who deserve something this holiday season.
You belong at the top of your list.

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Are you the last line item in your budget? Moving up on your list benefits everyone you love

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