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But I'm right though: help for those moments when digging in feels necessary

Mar 24, 2026

Most conflicts don’t escalate because people disagree.
They escalate because someone (or everyone) needs to be “right”.

Being right feels clarifying in the moment.
It feels like control.
It feels like safety. 

But it usually shuts down connection. Once we move into proving, defending, or correcting, the conversation narrows quickly.

Curiosity does something different.
Curiosity sounds like wanting to understand how the other person is seeing things, even if you don’t agree.
It keeps the conversation alive instead of ending it.

Real conflict resolution isn’t about one person being declared right, or even about landing on the perfect compromise.
More often, it’s about both people feeling heard and understood.

When that happens, the conversation changes.
People soften.
Connections can stay intact.  

This comes up everywhere. With kids. With partners. With patients. With colleagues. 

The moment you notice yourself digging in, it can help to pause and return to your ultimate goal of connection through curiosity. 

 

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