A design flaw, not a discipline issue: The missing piece to getting it going
Have you noticed how some goals slowly turn into emotional baggage.
They start out hopeful. Reasonable, even. And then over time they become that thing you vaguely avoid thinking about, because every glance at it comes with a little hit of guilt.
That usually isn’t because the goal was unrealistic. It’s because the goal never got a system.
We tend to set goals as if they’re self-executing. Eat ...
So I guess I'm handling this: If only resentment could make others change
Resentment tends to show up in people who are generous, capable, and very good at handling things.
It usually doesn’t start as anger. It starts as accommodation. Saying yes because it feels easier. Staying quiet to keep things smooth. Taking one for the team.
At first, this can look like maturity. Or professionalism. Or being low maintenance.
Then something shifts. You notice a tightness. A sho...
Got unfinished goals? You may be measuring the wrong thing
One thing that comes up often in coaching is the frustration of carrying the same goal year after year. Finish the house. Figure out the move. Finally feel settled. At some point it stops feeling motivating and starts feeling like evidence that you are behind.
But sometimes the issue isn’t effort or follow-through. It’s mislabeling.
Goals are meant to be completed. Values are meant to be lived....
