You're not actually psychic: Time to retire from the mind-reading business

You’ve heard it a million times: "Stop caring so much about what other people think!"

It's well-intentioned advice, but if only it were that simple!

You care deeply about others' opinions, and it affects you in ways you might not even realize:

           Hesitation making decisions, wondering what others will say
           Difficulty setting boundaries, fearing disapproval
           Wavering confidence, imagining critical judgments

Sound familiar?

Here's the thing: the advice to "just stop caring" isn't realistic. Human brains are wired for social connection and approval. 

But what if we told you there's a perspective shift that could change everything?

You don't actually know what other people are thinking.

You might be convinced you know their thoughts, but do you really??

All those imagined judgments, criticisms, and opinions? They're just guesses you’re making.  When you worry about “what people think", you're actually mired in your OWN thoughts.

This realization is incredibly freeing. Because when you realize that these thoughts are not facts, you can choose not to give them so much oxygen. 

Next time you find yourself ruminating about what others might think, lean into the power of "I don't actually know what they're thinking."

We promise you will not suddenly become Dr. Ice Queen by just ceasing to worry about imagined judgements by those around you.

Remember, the only thoughts you can control are your own. So why not make them supportive?