You wanted that too: The thing you don't have might not be evidence of failure
One of the reasons "should" thoughts can be so tricky is that sometimes they're pointing toward something you genuinely care about.
Take money, for example.
Maybe you've looked at your savings account, your retirement account, or your investments and thought, "I should have more saved by now."
And if someone challenged that thought, you might not immediately disagree.
Because the truth is, you ...
The guilt snack nobody ordered: A sneaky reason urges stick around
Ever notice how quickly a harmless urge turns into a full-blown self-improvement project?
You're scrolling your phone. And then your brain jumps in:
"I should be able to put this down.""Why am I doing this again?""This is such a waste of time."
We usually tell ourselves these things because we're trying to stop.
A little guilt should help, right?
Except it does the opposite.
Now you're not just...
Don't think about this: There is a difference between growth and tolerance
You’re learning how to shift your thoughts.And you’re getting kinda good at it.Maybe even a little competitive about it?
You’re in a difficult situation and you go to work.Reframing. Searching for a more helpful angle.There must be a way to choose a thought that makes this feel okay.
All this thought work feels productive. You want to be an A+ self-coacher.
But sometimes thought work turns into...
