Truth's role in your thinking: The selective demands we put on proof (and how it messes with our minds)

Feb 13, 2025

Ever notice how we're basically fortune tellers when it comes to predicting doom, but suddenly need a PhD in statistics to believe anything good might happen? One B- grade and we've already mapped out our kid's entire future: living in our basement at 30, all because of that chemistry midterm. Meanwhile, suggest that our child might actually thrive and suddenly we need a 47-point evidence-based presentation with peer review.

So here's a mind-bending question:
Does it actually matter if our thoughts are true?

The answer is yes... and no. (Stay with us here.)

YES- it matters when the realization that a thought isn't "true" helps you let it go. Like when you catch yourself writing your kid's entire life story based on one test grade. Step back and ask: "Is this actually true?" Suddenly that elaborate doom prophecy starts to look a little... dramatic.

But here's where it gets interesting...

NO- it doesn't matter when we are choosing new thoughts on purpose...they don't have to be "true". Because here's the thing - most of our thoughts aren't "true" or "false." They're just thoughts. But somehow we demand iron-clad proof for positive ones while letting negative ones slide right through security without even checking their ID.

Think about it: We'll believe "This B- means disaster" without a shred of evidence, but "My child is resilient and capable" somehow needs notarized documentation?

Here's your permission slip: You can choose thoughts that serve you without having them notarized by the Department of Absolute Truths. (Which, by the way, doesn't exist. We checked.)

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Truth's role in your thinking: The selective demands we put on proof (and how it messes with our minds)

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