Peace is not at the end of the list: How to see the unfinished list as proof of a full life
Ever feel like you’re falling behind… on your life? Of course you do (we all do!).
With your expert box-checking skills honed in medical school, you never imagined you’d end the day feeling behind. Yet somehow there’s always more you wish you could have gotten to before you go to sleep. The to-do...
Sep 16, 2025
One word to change your energy: A helpful reframe to create motivation with ease
Sometimes we say we have a “motivation problem”.
But often, it’s not motivation—it’s resentment. Because everything on the list feels like a Have-To.
Have to answer that email. Have to exercise. Have to make the dentist appointment.
But what if the real shift isn’t in what you do—but how you fram...
Sep 09, 2025
The case of the mysteriously tired doctor: How to get credit for the massive unseen labor
Let’s do a quick inventory.
Today, you remembered it was show-and-tell day. You knew which kid needed library books, which one had a runny nose last night, and which colleague looked off during rounds. You answered texts, scheduled the appointment, restocked the allergy meds, and started thinking...
Sep 02, 2025
This or that: You can't split yourself in two- but you can choose without guilt
You’ve got two choices. And neither is wrong (but man it would be easier if one was!)Take the late case or make it to the band concert.Say yes to the leadership opportunity or protect your current schedule.Go to that networking dinner or keep your 8pm couch date with your book.
These aren’t decis...
Aug 26, 2025
From beach bags to backpacks: A little wobble is part of the process
You know that feeling when your brain is still in summer mode but your calendar says otherwise?
Our kids don’t exactly want to swap their beach bags for backpacks either.
The shift from summer energy to school structure is a big transition—new teachers, new schedules, new social dynamics… maybe e...
Aug 19, 2025
For the fierce and the fried: When power and exhaustion live in the same body
Ever have one of those days where you do all the things—manage the tough case, remember the birthday gift, send the “thinking of you” text—and then find yourself sitting in your car wondering why you feel like you've been hit by a truck?
We’ve been enculturated through society and our training t...
Aug 05, 2025
Don't let her take the glory: How to reclaim the story of how you got here
You’ve been hearing a lot about self-compassion. You want to be kinder to yourself. But, that inner critic voice- she’s how you got to where you are now, right?
You know, your inner “mean girl”. The one that pushes, the one that berates into perfection, the one that mocks any sign of rest or eas...
Jul 29, 2025
Adulting or just...stuck?: Fine isn't the finish line
You're holding it together—technically.
You're getting it done. You're even smiling when someone asks how you're doing. (“Fine!”)But sometimes behind that smile is a fog of stuckness.Not a crisis, just... blah.As always, you've been following all the steps, checking most of the boxes, doing what ...
Jul 22, 2025
Optional label, actually: You're not wired that- you're practiced
If you’re using an adjective to describe yourself, we’ve got news for you.Adjectives are never facts. They’re interpretations. And interpretations are always subjective and optional. In fact, often the opposite adjective could also describe you, maybe even better.
Ever hear yourself say somethin...
Jul 15, 2025
Let's not coach the life out of it: Just because you can coach yourself...doesn't mean you should
Let’s talk about a sneaky trap that super smart, self-aware people (hi, you!) sometimes fall into once they learn coaching tools.
You feel something hard—grief, resentment, dread, shame. And instead of just feeling it, your brain starts flipping through your box of self-coaching tools like:
“This...
Jul 08, 2025
Rest deserves better PR: You're allowed to restore without a side of shame
Ever taken a moment to sit down—just to breathe, to think, to scroll, to stare out the window—and immediately thought:
“I should be doing something.”
And then it comes…“Ugh, I’m doing nothing.”
Calling rest “nothing” is a systemic lie, and it’s costing you your sanity.
Rest is not the absence of ...
Jul 01, 2025
"But I see both sides...": Why your attempt to be "fair" might feel dismissive
Here’s one of the sneaky reasons it can feel hard to validate someone else’s experience:
Their side of the story is not the only one we see. And then suddenly, offering validation starts to feel… disingenuous.Like we’re telling half the story.Like we’re picking sides.Like we’re lying a little?
So...
Jun 24, 2025
