More isn't always better: Why scarcity and abundance can create the same result
Lately we've been thinking about a concept we come back to often in coaching: sufficiency.
It's the sweet spot between abundance and scarcity.
We tend to think abundance is always the goal. More time. More flexibility. More options. More resources.
But abundance has a sneaky downside.
When we bel...
Jul 21, 2026
The noise complaint: Loud and true are not the same thing
One of the weird things about being human is that our brains tend to confuse loud with important.
The loudest kid in the classroom. The loudest person in the meeting. The loudest comment on social media.
We all know those aren't automatically the wisest voices in the room.
Yet when it c...
Jul 14, 2026
We love an easy win: Here are ten of them
Summer felt like a good time to share a few of our favorite life hacks.
Nothing life-changing.
Just little things that make life feel a bit easier.
The driveway pause
Sit in your car for one minute before going inside. It turns out switching between doctor, mom, partner, and human is a real t...
Jul 07, 2026
The person you talk to most: Practice here, benefit everywhere
One of our members said something in group that really stuck with us.
She'd been working on validation.
Not because it comes naturally. Not because she's particularly good at it. But because she'd noticed something: it WORKS.
When she remembers to validate her child instead of arguing with the...
Jun 30, 2026
Come with me: What to do when part of you is afraid
Yesterday you were excited.
Today your brain has prepared a 47-slide presentation on why this is a terrible idea.
A new job.A move.A boundary.A project you've been thinking about for years.
Whatever the change is, your brain suddenly becomes very interested in all the reasons it might go badly.
W...
Jun 23, 2026
You wanted that too: The thing you don't have might not be evidence of failure
One of the reasons "should" thoughts can be so tricky is that sometimes they're pointing toward something you genuinely care about.
Take money, for example.
Maybe you've looked at your savings account, your retirement account, or your investments and thought, "I should have more saved by now."
An...
Jun 16, 2026
The guilt snack nobody ordered: A sneaky reason urges stick around
Ever notice how quickly a harmless urge turns into a full-blown self-improvement project?
You're scrolling your phone. And then your brain jumps in:
"I should be able to put this down.""Why am I doing this again?""This is such a waste of time."
We usually tell ourselves these things because we're...
Jun 09, 2026
Don't think about this: There is a difference between growth and tolerance
You’re learning how to shift your thoughts.And you’re getting kinda good at it.Maybe even a little competitive about it?
You’re in a difficult situation and you go to work.Reframing. Searching for a more helpful angle.There must be a way to choose a thought that makes this feel okay.
All this tho...
Jun 02, 2026
You're not late: What if this is exactly when it happens
After a long, long time of not exercising consistently, the two of us crossed over the 6-month mark of meeting daily at 5:30am to do strength training.
While every once in a while our brains offer us thoughts of pride in our consistency, way too often we hear the internal refrain of “I should ha...
May 26, 2026
When it's hard to be kind: The kind of self-care that actually helps
Self-love gets marketed as bubble baths and daily affirmations.
We like a good bath as much as the next exhausted physician mom.But that’s not the kind of self-love that truly impacts your life.
Real self-love is quieter.And braver.
It’s telling yourself the truth without turning it into a...
May 19, 2026
The grass shouldn't be green: The second problem you don't need
Arguing with reality is exhausting.
“This shouldn’t be happening.” “He should do the dishes without me nagging him.” “My kid should get up without ten reminders.” “I shouldn’t be asked to take on an extra call night.” “The grass shouldn’t be green.”
Meanwhile… it IS happening. He didn’t do the di...
May 12, 2026
Snacks, feelings, interruptions, and lots of love: The uncurated Mother's Day
Mother’s Day is coming up.
For some, it’s really sweet.For some, it’s a little tender.For a lot of you, it’s both.
You might be in the thick of little-kid chaos.You might be parenting big kids who barely acknowledge the calendar.You might be missing your own mom, navigating something complicated,...
May 05, 2026
