The guilt snack nobody ordered: A sneaky reason urges stick around
Ever notice how quickly a harmless urge turns into a full-blown self-improvement project?
You're scrolling your phone. And then your brain jumps in:
"I should be able to put this down.""Why am I doing this again?""This is such a waste of time."
We usually tell ourselves these things because we're...
Jun 09, 2026
Don't think about this: There is a difference between growth and tolerance
You’re learning how to shift your thoughts.And you’re getting kinda good at it.Maybe even a little competitive about it?
You’re in a difficult situation and you go to work.Reframing. Searching for a more helpful angle.There must be a way to choose a thought that makes this feel okay.
All this tho...
Jun 02, 2026
You're not late: What if this is exactly when it happens
After a long, long time of not exercising consistently, the two of us crossed over the 6-month mark of meeting daily at 5:30am to do strength training.
While every once in a while our brains offer us thoughts of pride in our consistency, way too often we hear the internal refrain of “I should ha...
May 26, 2026
When it's hard to be kind: The kind of self-care that actually helps
Self-love gets marketed as bubble baths and daily affirmations.
We like a good bath as much as the next exhausted physician mom.But that’s not the kind of self-love that truly impacts your life.
Real self-love is quieter.And braver.
It’s telling yourself the truth without turning it into a...
May 19, 2026
The grass shouldn't be green: The second problem you don't need
Arguing with reality is exhausting.
“This shouldn’t be happening.” “He should do the dishes without me nagging him.” “My kid should get up without ten reminders.” “I shouldn’t be asked to take on an extra call night.” “The grass shouldn’t be green.”
Meanwhile… it IS happening. He didn’t do the di...
May 12, 2026
Snacks, feelings, interruptions, and lots of love: The uncurated Mother's Day
Mother’s Day is coming up.
For some, it’s really sweet.For some, it’s a little tender.For a lot of you, it’s both.
You might be in the thick of little-kid chaos.You might be parenting big kids who barely acknowledge the calendar.You might be missing your own mom, navigating something complicated,...
May 05, 2026
That didn't go as planned: Obstacles might actually be the path
Ever have one of those weeks where it feels like you took three steps forward… and then tripped over your own shoelaces?
The plan changed.The kid got sick.The meeting didn’t go how you hoped.Your energy vanished mid-Tuesday.
It’s easy to interpret that as: “I’m off track.”
But what if you’re not ...
Apr 28, 2026
The justification trap: Why you should stop making your case now
You know those weeks where you’ve covered call for a colleague, you’ve volunteered for the school party, you’ve stayed late to help a patient with a new diagnosis, and, after all that, instead of crashing into bed early, you stayed up until your partner got home after a business trip because you ...
Apr 21, 2026
Fear in a fancy cape: Perfection looks impressive. It's usually just scared
This week, let’s talk about perfection.
Perfection feels productive. It feels responsible. It feels like high standards.
Really, perfectionism is fear in a fancy cape. Like the little Wizard behind the green curtains.
The flavor of fear depends on the situation and your beliefs: Fear of being jud...
Apr 14, 2026
Permission granted: Deserving is not a future version of you
What’s really holding you back from investing in something you want?
You work hard. You show up. You’ve built success through discipline and effort.
And yet sometimes, when it comes to yourself, you hesitate.
You wait for a milestone. A bigger win. A future version of you who is “more deservin...
Apr 07, 2026
What your hamstrings already know: Comfort evolves after you begin
Most things feel uncomfortable… until they don’t.
The first time you speak up in a meeting and hear your own voice shake a little.
The first workout after a long break when your body is politely asking, “Excuse me, what is happening?” (We’re looking at you, hamstrings!)
The first honest ...
Mar 31, 2026
But I'm right though: help for those moments when digging in feels necessary
Most conflicts don’t escalate because people disagree. They escalate because someone (or everyone) needs to be “right”.
Being right feels clarifying in the moment. It feels like control. It feels like safety.
But it usually shuts down connection. Once we move into proving, defending, or correcti...
Mar 24, 2026
