Feedback isn't a verdict: Your worth isn't up for review
Feedback. Negotiations. Patient satisfaction scores. The “you’re the worst” comments from your teen.It’s so easy to absorb all of it as if it’s a verdict on who you are.
Your worth is not up for review.
Your salary can change. Your ratings can go down. Your adoring tween can shut the door in your...
Oct 21, 2025
When life won't make space: How to start before the dust settles
Ever catch yourself saying something like:
“I’ll start once the kids are settled in school.”“I’ll begin working out once life calms down a bit.”“I’ll focus on my eating after I survive the holidays.”
Here’s the thing: life is basically a string of busy seasons precariously taped together with the...
Oct 14, 2025
The pajama-day miracle: How to grab hold of some dopamine today
Some days, we wait for the big, shiny wins.The award. The thank-you note. The perfectly executed bedtime routine.
But let’s be honest—those days are rare. And even when they come, they don’t always feel the way we thought they would.You imagine the standing ovation, and instead you get polite app...
Oct 07, 2025
Hmm, what to write about this week: Three letters towards emotional freedom
Next time your brain says something harsh—like “I’m such a mess” or “That’s never going to work”—try this:
Pause. Then say: "Hmm."
Just that.
It might feel silly. But “hmm” is a bridge. It gets you from judgment to curiosity. From reactivity to reflection. From panic to possibility.
It keeps your...
Sep 30, 2025
The fixing can stay behind at work: The counterintuitive parenting move that works better than fixing
It’s bedtime. Your child is melting down. You’ve offered water, a snack, five different stuffed animals, and a second blanket—still, they’re sobbing.
You’ve hit the wall. The “nothing I do is working” wall.
This is usually where we launch into Fix-It Mode: search for the right strategy, the right...
Sep 23, 2025
Peace is not at the end of the list: How to see the unfinished list as proof of a full life
Ever feel like you’re falling behind… on your life? Of course you do (we all do!).
With your expert box-checking skills honed in medical school, you never imagined you’d end the day feeling behind. Yet somehow there’s always more you wish you could have gotten to before you go to sleep. The to-do...
Sep 16, 2025
One word to change your energy: A helpful reframe to create motivation with ease
Sometimes we say we have a “motivation problem”.
But often, it’s not motivation—it’s resentment. Because everything on the list feels like a Have-To.
Have to answer that email. Have to exercise. Have to make the dentist appointment.
But what if the real shift isn’t in what you do—but how you fram...
Sep 09, 2025
The case of the mysteriously tired doctor: How to get credit for the massive unseen labor
Let’s do a quick inventory.
Today, you remembered it was show-and-tell day. You knew which kid needed library books, which one had a runny nose last night, and which colleague looked off during rounds. You answered texts, scheduled the appointment, restocked the allergy meds, and started thinking...
Sep 02, 2025
This or that: You can't split yourself in two- but you can choose without guilt
You’ve got two choices. And neither is wrong (but man it would be easier if one was!)Take the late case or make it to the band concert.Say yes to the leadership opportunity or protect your current schedule.Go to that networking dinner or keep your 8pm couch date with your book.
These aren’t decis...
Aug 26, 2025
From beach bags to backpacks: A little wobble is part of the process
You know that feeling when your brain is still in summer mode but your calendar says otherwise?
Our kids don’t exactly want to swap their beach bags for backpacks either.
The shift from summer energy to school structure is a big transition—new teachers, new schedules, new social dynamics… maybe e...
Aug 19, 2025
For the fierce and the fried: When power and exhaustion live in the same body
Ever have one of those days where you do all the things—manage the tough case, remember the birthday gift, send the “thinking of you” text—and then find yourself sitting in your car wondering why you feel like you've been hit by a truck?
We’ve been enculturated through society and our training t...
Aug 05, 2025
Don't let her take the glory: How to reclaim the story of how you got here
You’ve been hearing a lot about self-compassion. You want to be kinder to yourself. But, that inner critic voice- she’s how you got to where you are now, right?
You know, your inner “mean girl”. The one that pushes, the one that berates into perfection, the one that mocks any sign of rest or eas...
Jul 29, 2025
