Click, pause, parent: How one strategic wod can reset your brain before responding to kid chaos
You’re sitting there, peacefully ticking things off your to-do list—maybe sipping some lukewarm coffee (hey, we’re all about multitasking). Then, suddenly, you hear it: the unmistakable sound of your kids fighting in the other room.
“Here we go again”, right? The instinct is to rush in, ready to ...
Apr 29, 2025
After the storm: You can acknowledge past hurt while still embracing present connection
Whether it’s your teenager, your partner, your colleague, your sibling, we’ve all been where we want to have a relationship with someone whose mood is a little bit unpredictable.
Maybe yesterday, that person was in a volatile mood, snapping or withdrawing, like a thunderstorm. Today, they’re all...
Apr 22, 2025
Are you a compliment crusher? How accepting praise can strengthen both your confidence and connections
Have you ever noticed how uncomfortable it can feel to receive a compliment?
Someone says, “That was an excellent diagnosis you made,” and you instinctively respond, “Oh, it was just luck.”
Or a colleague tells you, “Your presentation at the department meeting was so clear and helpful,” and you b...
Apr 16, 2025
Riding the Wave of Urges (without drowning): They feel compelling in the moment, but urges don't control you
That urge to check your phone during dinner? The pull toward the break room donuts after a difficult patient encounter? The voice telling you to scroll social media when you have five minutes between patients?
These desires feel so compelling in the moment. The demand feels so strong that acting ...
Apr 08, 2025
How About This April Fools' Prank?: Many of our worries are no different than an April Fools' trick
That worry keeping you up at night? It's probably about something that hasn't even happened yet - and might never happen at all. Talk about fooling yourself!
On this April Fools' Day, let's talk about the biggest prank we play on ourselves: thinking we can accurately predict the future.
We spend ...
Apr 01, 2025
Free Your Thoughts: When you judge your thoughts, you lose the ability to change them
Have you ever noticed how quickly you move from having a thought that doesn’t serve you to judging yourself for having that thought?
This is what we call a "thought model on a thought model" (aka “model on model” for short), and it’s often the invisible barrier slowing your personal growth.
First...
Mar 25, 2025
You're not actually psychic: Time to retire from the mind-reading business
You’ve heard it a million times: "Stop caring so much about what other people think!"
It's well-intentioned advice, but if only it were that simple!
You care deeply about others' opinions, and it affects you in ways you might not even realize:
Hesitation making decisions, wondering wha...
Mar 18, 2025
Hidden gifts in the missing moments: Connection and other benefits of your choices
"I missed another field trip." "Everyone thinks the nanny is their mom." "I don't even know my child's gymnastics coach's name."
Sound familiar? Those ruminations about feeling absent are really painful.
But today, let's look at this differently. What if you're not giving them less - but giving ...
Mar 11, 2025
Breaking up with "I Am": Your "I am" statements may be causing side effects...
Let's talk about two tiny words that are shaping your entire identity: "I am."
As physicians, we're trained to be precise with our language. Yet when it comes to our emotions, we often use language that boxes us in. "I am stressed." "I am overwhelmed." "I am anxious." We all do this many times a ...
Mar 05, 2025
To some of the least "selfish" women ever: Your guilt's understanding of selfish is truly questionable
That pang of guilt when you head out to book club, leaving your partner with bedtime duties. The voice that whispers "selfish" when you even briefly consider a sick day or say no to that leadership role you are certain you don’t want.
Let's talk about what selfish really means, shall we?
Selfishn...
Mar 05, 2025
Bye-Bye Bessie- A Story of Letting Go: Ancient wisdom for the modern physician mom's mental load
Have you heard of the Buddhist story of the cattle farmer?
Each night, he would spend hours counting his cows, checking the fences, and worrying about protecting his herd. During the day, his mind was consumed with thoughts of his cows' safety. He couldn't sleep, couldn't relax, and couldn't foc...
Mar 05, 2025
Truth's role in your thinking: The selective demands we put on proof (and how it messes with our minds)
Ever notice how we're basically fortune tellers when it comes to predicting doom, but suddenly need a PhD in statistics to believe anything good might happen? One B- grade and we've already mapped out our kid's entire future: living in our basement at 30, all because of that chemistry midterm. Me...
Feb 13, 2025
